Archive | May 2015

The Science of Babywearing (from a non-scientist POV)

Babywearing is defined as the practice of carrying or wearing a baby in a sling or another form of carrier. It has been a practice that is passed on from generation to generation. In the Philippines, this is still being practice by the various indigenous communities across the country and is slowly but steadily gaining grounds everywhere, mostly due to the collective efforts of advocates of attachment parenting and babywearing parents.

The most common question is ” Why should we practice the habit of babywearing?” – simply because baby wearing is the right thing to do. In the same way that babies should drink breast milk because it is human milk and therefore for human consumption, a baby’s proper place is beside his parents (mother or father). This allows the baby to remain comfortable and at ease while slowly adjusting into this new environment. Just imagine being inside the womb for nine months, where it is totally quiet, dark and peaceful then voila!welcome to the world of chaos and noise. That’s stressful isn’t it? 

Another frequently heard myth is “Baby would walk late because he’s always carried.” – Myth busted. Babies have their phase of development individually. As observed by baby wearing parents, there are carried babies that would start walking by six months even if they are constantly carried. They would walk, at their own preferred time and when they deemed they are ready. And there won’t be any stopping them. That’s the great thing about baby wearing also. As observed by fellow baby wearers, even toddlers would want “uppy up up” when they need comfort. Which only shows that even if they know how to walk already, they still find comfort in being worn.

There’s also this outrage that baby wearing can cause bow-leggedness or in Filipino “pagkasakang”. – Again, another myth. Babywearing has nothing to do with being bow-legged. But genes definitely has. If there is a history of bow leggedness in the family, of course there are  chances that the child would inherit it. The wide legged, bum higher than knees is what pediatricians actually recommend as the proper way of wearing our babies.

Ergonomic PositionAbove are some infographics provided by the Babywearing Philippines page regarding proper position and to address the issue on bow-leggedness.

Below are additional benefits of babywearing as discussed by Dr. Sears in his website AskDrSears

1. Sling babies cry less.

 “As long as I wear her, she’s content!” Parents of fussy babies who try babywearing relate that their babies seem to forget to fuss. This is more than just my own impression. In 1986, a team of pediatricians in Montreal reported on a study of ninety-nine mother-infant pairs. The first group of parents were provided with a baby carrier and assigned to carry their babies for at least three extra hours a day. They were encouraged to carry their infants throughout the day, regardless of the state of the infant, not just in response to crying or fussing. In the control, or noncarried group, parents were not given any specific instructions about carrying. After six weeks, the infants who received supplemental carrying cried and fussed 43 percent less than the noncarried group.

Anthropologists who travel throughout the world studying infant-care practices in other cultures agree the benefits of
babywearing cultures are that infants cry much less. In Western culture we measure a baby’s crying in hours, but in other cultures, crying is measured in minutes. We have been led to believe that it is “normal” for babies to cry a lot, but in other cultures this is not accepted as the norm. In these cultures, babies are normally “up” in arms and are put down only to sleep – next to the mother. When the parent must attend to her own needs, the baby is in someone else’s arms.

2. Sling babies learn more.

If infants spend less time crying and fussing, what do they do with their free time? They learn! Sling babies spend more time in the state of quiet alertness . This is the behavioral state in which an infant is most content and best able to interact with his environment. It may be called the optimal state of learning for a baby. Researchers have also reported that carried babies show enhanced visual and auditory alertness.

One of the great benefits of babywearing is when baby is in the behavioral state of quiet alertness, it gives parents a better opportunity to interact with their baby. Notice how mother and baby position their faces in order to achieve this optimal visually interactive plane. The human face, especially in this position, is a potent stimulator for interpersonal bonding. In the kangaroo carry, baby has a 180-degree view of her environment and is able to scan her world. She learns to choose, picking out what she wishes to look at and shutting out what she doesn’t. This ability to make choices enhances learning. A sling baby learns a lot in the arms of a busy caregiver.

3. Sling babies are more organized.

It’s easier to understand the benefits of babywearing when you think of a baby’s gestation as lasting eighteen months – nine months inside the womb and at least nine more months outside. The womb environment automatically regulates baby’s systems. Birth temporarily disrupts this organization. The more quickly, however, baby gets outside help with organizing these systems, the more easily he adapts to the puzzle of life outside the womb. By extending the womb experience, the babywearing mother (and father) provides an external regulating system that balances the irregular and disorganized tendencies of the baby. Picture how these regulating systems work. Mother’s rhythmic walk, for example, (which baby has been feeling for nine months) reminds baby of the womb experience. This familiar rhythm, imprinted on baby’s mind in the womb, now reappears in the “outside womb” and calms baby. As baby places her ear against her mother’s chest, mother’s heartbeat, beautifully regular and familiar, reminds baby of the sounds of the womb. As another biological regulator, baby senses mother’s rhythmic breathing while worn tummy-to-tummy, chest-to-chest. Simply stated, regular parental rhythms have a balancing effect on the infant’s irregular rhythms. The benefits of babywearing “remind” the baby of and continues the motion and balance he enjoyed in the womb.


The womb lasts eighteen months: Nine months inside mother, and nine months outside.

What may happen if the baby spends most of his time lying horizontally in a crib, attended to only for feeding and comforting, and then again separated from mother? A newborn has an inherent urge to become organized, to fit into his or her new environment. If left to his own resources, without the regulating presence of the mother, the infant may develop disorganized patterns of behavior: colicky cries, jerky movements, disorganized self-rocking behaviors, anxious thumb sucking, irregular breathing, and disturbed sleep. The infant, who is forced to self-calm, wastes valuable energy he could have used to grow and develop.

While there are a variety of child-rearing theories, attachment researchers all agree on one thing: In order for a baby’s emotional, intellectual, and physiological systems to function optimally, the continued presence of the mother, the most important benefits of babywearing, is a necessary regulatory influence.

4. The “humanizing” benefits of babywearing.

Another of the ways the benefits of babywearing improve learning is that baby is intimately involved in the caregiver’s world. Baby sees what mother or father sees, hears what they hear, and in some ways feels what they feel. Carried babies become more aware of their parents’ faces, walking rhythms, and scents. Baby becomes aware of, and learns from, all the subtle facial expressions, body language, voice inflections and tones, breathing patterns, and emotions of the caregiver. A parent will relate to the baby a lot more often, because baby is sitting right under her nose. Proximity increases interaction, and baby can constantly be learning how to be human. Carried babies are intimately involved in their parents’ world because they participate in what mother and father are doing. A baby worn while a parent washes dishes, for example, hears, smells, sees, and experiences in depth the adult world. He is more exposed to and involved in what is going on around him. Baby learns much in the arms of a busy person.

5. Sling babies are smarter.

Environmental experiences stimulate nerves to branch out and connect with other nerves, which helps the brain grow and develop. The benefits of babywearing are that it helps the infant’s developing brain make the right connections. Because baby is intimately involved in the mother and father’s world, she is exposed to, and participates in, the environmental stimuli that mother selects and is protected from those stimuli that bombard or overload her developing nervous system. She so intimately participates in what mother is doing that her developing brain stores a myriad of experiences, called patterns of behavior. These experiences can be thought of as thousands of tiny short-run movies that are filed in the infant’s neurological library to be rerun when baby is exposed to a similar situation that reminds her of the making of the original “movie.” For example, mothers often tell me, “As soon as I pick up the sling and put it on, my baby lights up and raises his arms as if in anticipation that he will soon be in my arms and in my world.”

I have noticed that sling babies seem more attentive, clicking into adult conversations as if they were part of it. Babywearing enhances speech development. Because baby is up at voice and eye level, he is more involved in conversations. He learns a valuable speech lesson – the ability to listen.

Normal ambient sounds, such as the noises of daily activities, may either have learning value for the infant or disturb him. If baby is alone, sounds may frighten him. If baby is worn, these sounds have learning value. The mother filters out what she perceives as unsuitable for the baby and gives the infant an “It’s okay” feeling when he is exposed to unfamiliar sounds and experiences.

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Happy babywearing everybody! Yeah, carry all the babies.


Carry All the Baby(ies)

Babywearing. Now, that’s something that I only encountered AFTER I gave birth to Cloud. Breastfeeding,co-sleeping and cloth diapering, I’ve read up and prepared for it during my pregnancy days. But, babywearing is the “new” thing for me after I gave birth.

I knew about it when I talked to one of my mommy friends and how I sort of complained that I cannot do other tasks because most of the time Cloud wants to be carried or just breastfeed all day long. She suggested that I read up on babywearing and join the babywearing community for Filipinos in Facebook. (Facebook page : Babywearing Philippines. A happy online community of Filipino babywearers.)

I joined the page and also did my own research. I learned of the various types of carriers and learned also that the carriers we purchased before I gave birth was a narrow-based one and is not recommended. So, I started making “lambing” with the hubby and started looking for carriers that we can afford. Our first carrier was a ring sling that we purchased from a local seller. Cloud was just a few weeks old then and I was totally helpless on how to do it. In theory, I felt like I know how to do it. But when I put my theory in practice..epic fail! That’s when I decided to join meet ups organized by the local babywearing community. So I started to learn how to really use the ring sling. I was finally able to understand how the “M” position can be achieved and why babies should not be worn facing outward. I’m just thankful that in my inherent stubborness, I did not use our narrow based carrier.

And that’s how I got hooked to babywearing and its benefits. Cloud is a very active baby. He loves being outside, being taken into walks in the local park, watching his bigger cousins play while at the same time, he loves being in our arms. Frequently, he wouldn’t go to sleep when he’s not being danced while breastfeeding, which makes it tiring and challenging. But babywearing saves us most of the time. It also helps address our colic problems. As a new mom, I never thought that burping can be such a big deal! =)

Babywearing is a happy thing to do and definitely have its scientific benefits and merits (which I will discuss in another post). But the best thing that it has done to our small family is to give us the bonding that we need with our little squish. Nothing can compare to the warmth that we feel in our hearts when we wear Cloud and he went into that peaceful, happy state of sleep while listening to the beat of our hearts. That’s simply priceless and far too precious.

Of course, what is babywearing without the small talk about carrier stash, right? Currently, our humble stash is composed of one Soft Structured Carrier – Tula Lil Rascals, Three Woven Wraps – size 4,5 and 6 from a local seller and One Sports Wrap from a local seller still. Do we see ourselves buying more carriers? Perhaps no. Our stash for now is more than  enough for our squish. But, when he reaches toddler stage, then of course moving up with a Tula Toddler is deemed necessary. =)

So, carry all the babies! Carry while you still can and they still want. Because, whether we accept it or not, time’s gonna come when our little squish would let go of our hands and embrace the world on their own. When they would no longer listen to the beat of our hearts but to the beat of their own.

For as we all know, they hold our hand for a little while but our hearts for a lifetime.

So yeah, Carry all the babies!

Life Lessons Breastfeeding Taught Me

During my pregnancy, I was already determined that I will breastfeed our baby. I thought it would be easy. Oh dear, was I wrong!

Our bundle of joy was born via normal delivery at 09:00 a.m. of December 13, 2014 after almost fourteen hours of labor. I was asleep after giving birth. (We all know how tiring giving birth can be. It felt like all of my bones was falling apart). Two hours after giving birth and still feeling dazed, I overheard my husband arguing with one of the nurse.

“Sige na po Sir, kelangan niyo na bumili ng milk kasi nagugutom na yung baby niyo.” (Sir please, you need to buy milk, your baby is getting hungry.”)

“Ay naku Ma’am, hindi po puwede kasi bilin ng asawa ko, breastfeed daw dapat si baby namin. Magagalit po yan.” (No ma’am, my wife wants to breastfeed our baby. She might get angry.)

“Ei tulog pa siya Sir er.” (But she’s still asleep Sir.)

“Pakigising na lang siya.” (Please wake her up.)

So the nurse went to me and wake me up. When I held our baby for the first time to latch, I got weaker. He was so tiny and fragile. He was a mere 2.4lbs baby, a liter of bottled water is bigger than him. Then he latched. And it was the most wonderful feeling of all.

And it was the start of a very wonderful journey.

Breastfeeding opened my eyes and my heart to the beautiful things that comes with motherhood.

It taught me to be selfless. During the start of our breastfeeding journey, I had to admit, there were times that I just want to get a decent sleep,bath or a trip to the bathroom. But I cannot. Because he wants to latch. Because he needs the familiarity and warmth that only a mother can provide. So I’ve learned to set aside my personal needs versus his. I’ve learned that my life is not just about me anymore. That I now have this wonderful, handsome being that needs me. Both me and my husband have learned that quality time is not just about the two of us – the most quality time is time spent together with our baby. Each time our little one latches, my husband would immediately arrange our pillows to ensure that we are in the most comfortable position. We both know now that our decisions will affect not only us but this little boy who is God’s gift to us.

Breastfeeding gave me the best lesson in priority-setting. My work demands that I travel most of the time. Across the country, to areas that others found to be risky and dangerous. During my single stage, I can hardly be seen in the office. I am always on the go. I will only be in the office for quick meetings then I’ll be on the go. I will only be home on weekends and then I’m off again. But since our little squish came, I have learned to politely say “No” and “Not Now” to travel requests. I used to leave the office at 07:00 pm or even later, but now, the moment the clock hit 05:00 p.m., I’m off to home. I sometimes even feel guilty for not being able to let him latch directly and for not being there for him all the time.

It also taught me endurance and patience. To physically endure the pain that comes with “improper latching” and teething tantrums. Sleepiness during night feeding is also something to fight. And it ain’t easy. There had been several instances when I almost fall asleep while feeding our squish. It took some time but my body adjusted eventually. Now, it seems like my boobs are wired to his mouth when it comes to his feeding schedule. It seems they have a language of their own. Breastfeeding had taught me to be patient. There were times when he gets too fussy and even if he’s already latched on, he would still fuss. I’ve learned that it can be remedied by changing positions or letting him burped.

We are now five months and a half in our breastfeeding journey and I know that we still have a lot to learn. It is not without struggles but it will be in an entirely different post. :=)

And oh, the squish is now more than 7 kilos! Hooray!