When is the right time to be in love?
I do not and never will know. Love happens to every one, of that I am sure. But on when, why or how, I do not have the answer.
I just have simple principles and core beliefs when it comes to love.
1. In order to love another, you have to understand what love really meant.
i Corinthians 13: 1-13
I have always refer to these verses every time I am asked about love. For us to determine if love is real, it has to fulfill and comply by the qualifications the Bible had set.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2. Do not fall in love. Walk into love.
Why? Because falling hurts, while walking with slow, steady and measured steps provides us with caution. protection and safety.
3. Be ready to take and make risks.
Love is a risk. Anyone who says it isn’t is a fool. When we have love, we care. When we care, we weigh and make decisions that affects not only us but other people as well. When you’re not ready for the responsibility of making a commitment, then don’t even start one.
4. Guard your heart.
Guard your heart because it is the most deceitful part of our humanity. When in a relationship, avoid being in a compromising situation other than your partner ( and yes, that includes the so called “harmless” flirting. There is no such thing as harmless when it comes to flirting.) And when you are unsure of what you feel, take a few steps back and assess yourself and the situation. DO NOT RUSH AND AVOID MAKING QUICK JUDGEMENTS.
5. Avoid gray areas.
Again, everything should be clear with you. You should be sure of what you REALLY feel. Stop relying on those MAYBE. Those can be YES or NO and somebody gets hurt on the process. So, as long as your mind is still undecided, do not jump into the commitment wagon.
Love is wonderful, like dandelions after the rain. It should not be taken for granted. It should happen at the right time, at the right place witn the right person.